Agree or Disagree: This PC petition opposing someone wearing a niqab while taking the oath.


“Not the way we do things here”

The above petition is from the Federal PC Government.

They are asking you to sign a petition requesting that women not wear a full face covering during the Canadian oath.

To quote the petition here it is;

In Canada, women are full and equal members of society — including when they take the oath of Canadian citizenship.

That is why we are strongly opposed to anyone wearing a niqab – a full face covering – while taking the oath.

As PM Harper said last week, that is not the way we do things here: 

“It is offensive that someone would hide their identity at the very moment where they are committing to join the Canadian family.”

In Canada, women are full and equal members of society. Including when they take the oath of Canadian citizenship.

In order to give some perspective as to why those choose to wear the nijab, I’ll post this link from the BBC. It is from woman who explain why this is very important to them.

So, do you Agree or Disagree with the Federal Government addressing this topic at all?

Would you sign this petition?

Agree or Disagree: Men can’t-and shouldn’t stop staring at women


Agree or Disagree: Men can’t and shouldn’t stop staring at women

This an interesting article to read. Instead of commenting too much, I’m going to let Ian Brown’s words speak for themselves. Then, see what you think

Agree or Disagree: Women should live to the standard of Proverbs 31


Epilogue: The Wife of Noble Character

10 [b]A wife of noble character who can find?
    She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
    and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
    all the days of her life.
13 She selects wool and flax
    and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
    bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up while it is still night;
    she provides food for her family
    and portions for her female servants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
    out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She sets about her work vigorously;
    her arms are strong for her tasks.
18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
    and her lamp does not go out at night.
19 In her hand she holds the distaff
    and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
20 She opens her arms to the poor
    and extends her hands to the needy.
21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
    for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for her bed;
    she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
    where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
    and supplies the merchants with sashes.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
    she can laugh at the days to come.
26 She speaks with wisdom,
    and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
27 She watches over the affairs of her household
    and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
    her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
    but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
    but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
31 Honor her for all that her hands have done,
    and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.

If you have not read this before, this is a portion of Scripture from Proverbs 31. For many women that are Christian, this verse along with other verses like Titus 2:1-5 and 1 Peter 3:1 that are standards they have been taught on how to be a godly woman.

I decided on Proverbs 31,because if you do some search, you can find people actually teaching you how to be a Proverbs 31 wife!  Here’s an example http://aproverbs31wife.com/choices/

I do think as we discuss this it’s important to give some context to this verse as well as another perspective. For this, I’ll share this perspective written by a lady named Amanda Haley. http://www.hearthevoice.com/blog/98 and this quote which is a common thought when we look at Proverbs 31.

Proverbs is a book written for young men by the “Teacher,” an unidentified older scribe. The purpose is to encourage students to seek God throughout their lives, and much of the book is concerned with the dichotomy between Wisdom and Folly. These traits are personified in Proverbs, rendered in The Voice translation as “Lady Wisdom” and “Lady Folly.” Men are encouraged throughout Proverbs to follow the path of Wisdom, which leads to God. Lady Wisdom is depicted as an unmarried woman reaching out to young suitors. She is challenged by Lady Folly, who reaches out to the same men in insidious ways. The virtues of the former and vices of the latter are emphasized in Proverbs. 

The question I ask is this.  Is this verse or verses like this sets an unreasonable expectation  for women? Or, do they set an unhealthy standard?

Agree or Disagree: Gender Roles have caused an unreasonable expectations on relationships.


If you remember a while ago, I mentioned someone named Sarah Moon. She has been reviewing some dating books on Twitter. Her Twitter is @SarahNMoon. She is very passionate and cares very much about how this topic has impacted relationships.

There are some in Christian circles that believe that the man is the leader of the house. And that the woman has been made as the “helpmate”.  Books have been written on this. Influential speakers like John Piper and Mark Driscoll and even Joshua Harris have mentioned this. This argument would be supported by many woman as well.

So, I have asked her to write a guest post on this topic.  I think, and hope you might find her perspective interesting. You can also like her on Facebook as well under Sarah Moon.

Thank you Sarah.

When my last boyfriend and I started getting more serious about our relationship and were wondering “Where do we go from here?” we decided to seek some counsel from books. So I went to the Christian bookstore on my Christian college’s campus and picked up Boy Meets Girl by Joshua Harris.

Now, my ex and I had both grown up in fundamentalist-learning churches, so we’d heard the basics about gender roles before. But never had we heard about gender roles with an emphasis as strong as what we found in that book. So, thinking that we had been doing everything wrong for our entire relationship, we attempted to follow the rules that this book put forth.

He would be the strong, masculine leader.

I would be the vulnerable, feminine, helper.

Instead of being ourselves, instead of continuing the journey we’d already started toward learning who the other person was, we both tried to see the other (and ourselves) as Man or Woman, as defined by Joshua Harris.

Do gender roles cause unrealistic expectations in relationships? Though I can’t speak for everyone, based on my own relationships, I’d have to say that yes, yes they do.

Usually, dating is a period of time where two people get to know each other. But when one worships gender roles, there’s this idea that you can already know someone of the opposite sex just by knowing what a Man or a Woman is.

The idea is that all men are alike, all women are alike, but all men are completely different from all women. When I tried to model my relationship based on this, I had to throw out the things I already knew about my ex boyfriend that didn’t line up what Christian dating books told me about Men. I would just assume those “non-manly” characteristics were clever lies that he was using to get in my pants.

I became mistrustful of him when he was just being himself in ways that didn’t like up with “manliness.” At the same time, I became upset and disappointed when he didn’t live up to the “knight in shining armor” standard that I read men were supposed to me. I got to the point where I couldn’t see him or treat him like a human.

At the same time, I couldn’t see or treat myself as a human either. I tried to be submissive, to “guard my heart” instead of continuing the openness and honesty that had once marked our relationship. I tried to be quiet and gentle. But I was trying to be someone I could not be. I was trying to make my partner someone he could not be.

He wasn’t ready to “spiritually lead” another grown adult and I wasn’t about to follow the “spiritual leadership” of someone my own age who didn’t know anything more about our religion than I did. He wasn’t able to provide monetarily for a whole family by himself, and I wasn’t about to give up my career goals to “let him” do that. But we struggled, we tried for over a year.

That relationship ended for unrelated reasons, and I was left to evaluate everything that went wrong. In my next relationship (with a former Southern Baptist) it took a few weeks to work out the practical aspects of an egalitarian relationship, but it was worth it.

Instead of getting to know the definition of Man, I got to know a man. A human man who had his own talents, abilities, hopes, dreams, thoughts, personalities that were not inextricable tied to his gender or sex.

Instead of getting to know the definition of Woman, he got to know me. And I got to know me better too.

I think that getting to know a gender role keeps us from getting to know each other as people. Yes, I believe it sets up unrealistic expectations, unnecessary pressure, and often disappointment.

Agree or Disagree: We understand the issues surrounding Domestic Violence


Tomorrow, December 6, is the National Day or Remembrance and Action on Violence Against Women.

I  had a “conversation” with an individual over Twitter regarding an incident this weekend with an National Football League player murdering his girlfriend and then himself at the players facility.  The guy was mocking the incident. He actually went as far as to say he was glad the player died. When I challenged him on his view, he did have some defenders.

The biggest tragedy amongst the many in this situation is there is a three month old girl that has lost her mother and her father.

A while back, a comment was made that I need to open up the door to discuss prevention in some issues. I did take that comment to heart, as it was from someone I respect.

This article http://www.statcan.gc.ca/pub/85-224-x/2010000/aftertoc-aprestdm2-eng.htm is from Statistics Canada.  It sights percentages of reported cases of domestic violence. You will note some interesting things. This was one of them from the report.

Younger Canadians were more likely to report being a victim of spousal violence than were older Canadians. Those aged 25 to 34 years old were three times more likely than those aged 45 and older to state that they had been physically or sexually assaulted by their spouse.

 Also,

n 2009, victims of spousal violence were less likely to report the incident to police than in 2004. Just under one-quarter (22%) of spousal violence victims stated that the incident came to the attention of the police, down slightly from 2004 (28%).

So it seems over time, there becomes a sense of silence for those that are victims of violence. Be it age, or in years.

So although not a comfortable topic, how or are we able to have a discussion surrounding these issues? Also, do you think that domestic violence is preventable?