Agree or Disagree: Society has a cultural bias towards extroverts.

One of my all time favourite books is Susan Cain’s book Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can’t Stop Talking.

For the record, my Myers-Briggs is ENFJ. My E and I is close and my P and J are also close. I kind of look at myself as an Extrovert Introvert.

One of the reasons I love Cain’s book so much is because it does shine some light on what presume is the success of the extrovert. It also shares how we underestimate the power of the introvert.

As an example, think of some of the qualities we like in a leader. Great charisma, great communicator, ability to inspire etc. Qualities more recognized in an extrovert or an introvert leaders. We underestimate the ability to prepare and to push themselves and others.

In this article, Cain argues that our society has a cultural bias towards extroverts. As an example, here is what she says about the education system.

In a way education by its nature favours the extrovert because you are taking kids and putting them into a big classroom, which is automatically going to be a high-stimulation environment. Probably the best way of teaching in general is one on one, but that’s not something everyone can afford. So, school ends up becoming this place where introverted kids learn that they have to act like extroverts.

What do you think? Do you Agree or Disagree that Society has a cultural bias towards extroverts?

Agree or Disagree: Men are being “Wussified”-A perspective from a Man.

I tend not to get overly personal here, but I would like to tell you what I did Sunday.

I was out at the pub with guys watching football. We drank beer, ate wings, and cheered the Seattle Seahawks to victory.

I did that last weekend.

I’m going to do that in two weeks.

In this video,people are on Elisabeth Hasselbeck for the comments about asking about “Wussifying” males being a threat to National Security. Granted, not the brightest question in the world. However, the author of this book, Nick Roach, said absolutely!

I’m not sure where Nick Roach lives. I’m not sure Elisabeth Hasselbeck lives. But where I live, it would seem to me that being a man is in no way being threatened.

However, they asked the wrong question.

Some men like to hunt. Some men like to fish. Some men love cars. Some men do not. Some prefer other activities. It doesn’t mean one man is better or more manly than another.

Instead of asking how we are “wussifying” men,why don’t we have a conversation about what a quality man is?

Why don’t we stop looking at what a man is by the amount of stuff he has? There are several men who have everything life can grant to them. Money, stuff, looks, attitude. Yet, they treat women, and other people, like garbage. Some have abandoned kids.

What we should do is applaud the men that are honourable. The men who have lots or little that put their family and friends first. That take the time to contribute positively to culture. Be it volunteering, advocating, defending and supporting others. Many who do so quietly and with dignity. They may or may not hunt, or fish, or drive a car. They may prefer a simpler lifestyle.

But if you asked their friends and family, they would call them a man. And they are loved for it.

At the end of life, the things that will matter and the things that I will reflect on is not how you measured up to society’s image of man.

What will matter is the type of man I became.

Agree or Disagree: Society and the Church approach Sex before marriage totally wrong.

Agree or Disagree: Society and the Church approach Sex before marriage totally wrong.

This is a post  from Connie Jakab about a complex subject. Sex before marriage.

The topic of sex before marriage is a topic that many in the Christian church take and have taken seriously. Many for various reasons will tell you the importance of why they wait. Some will concede specifically because of Scripture. Others will take it a step further and tell you other reasons. 

And while the church have mentioned this in message after message, the fact is there are Christians who have had or will have sex before marriage.  The other fact is, some will never publicly admit it. The reason is many know they will feel condemned, shamed and judged.

Now many in society, or those that used to be part of the Christian church, think this is an unreasonable expectation.  Some might think that this idea is actually archaic. Sex is a natural part of life they might say.  But others actually take the concept of waiting seriously . Maybe they may not wait until marriage, but they will take it seriously.

So, I’ll encourage you to read Connie’s post. Then ask what you think about the concept of sex before marriage? Does the church or society have it right?