Agree or Disagree: Mental Health Issues are too hard to talk about over Social Media.


You may, or may not be aware that this is Mental Health Awareness Week.

For those who are not aware what it is, you can click here.

I do post a lot of different…conversation  pieces on Facebook and Twitter and this blog. Things like dating, sex, politics, religion . They all get a good conversation and different perspectives involved.

I also post stuff on mental illness from time to time.  With the exception of one that went horribly sideways, generally there is not a lot of comments on the topic.

It has lead to me wonder about something.

Is the actual topic of mental illness and mental struggles too tough and perhaps too personal to discuss over Social Media? As much as we think there is an openness to this, that is something very personal?

What are your thoughts?


Agree or Disagree: The News Coverage over the incident in Moncton was sensationalized.


If the title of this video from CTV News bothered you, you are not the only one.

Many of you were.

This was not the title of a blockbuster movie with a Hollywood star coming to save the day and kiss the love interest at the end. This was a real live incident involving the loss of loved ones whose spouses will never feel their embrace again.

Yet, if you watched CTV News, this was the title they went with.

Now, it is not just CTV News that should feel some brunt here.  The news coverage on this also included the following.

Videos of the actual shooting of one RCMP officer. These were shared and re shared on Social Media.

The use of the hashtag #monctonshooting

Rumours and conjecture of the actual suspect Justin Bourque.

When I say news coverage, I’m going to include the Social Media presence on this. After all, many of you followed the coverage on Social Media. So, there is responsibility there too.

For the most part, and I know some of you won’t like to give them credit, but CBC news handled this the best. They attempted to stick to the facts, and tell the story.

However, it doesn’t dismiss the feeling many have. That the incident in Moncton was sensationalized.

Would you agree or disagree with that?

About this video we all need to see…..

Several of you over the weekend posted this video. Apparently, many of you have told us we need to see this video.

So, for the next 4:27, I would like all of you to take the time to watch the video.

Are you done?


Now, I would all of you read what I have to say in response.

First let me say some things about me.

I have 2,905 friends on Facebook. I also have 1,820 Followers on Twitter and 375 on Instagram.

Do I feel lonely? Yes, sometimes I will admit I do.

I would also admit that if you have seen me on my Iphone or Ipad checking my Facebook or Twitter. I would admit I have what some call a keen interest in what we call “Social Media”.

Is my loneliness because I am always on my phone?

No, it’s not.

For some context for our rhyming friend, I’d like to take you to a time far away. A time some of us may not remember.

The time before we all had Facebook and smart phones.

I remember that time. The time before Facebook and smart phones. The time where we didn’t have a phone to distract us. The time where we truly connected with each other. We walked by each other and said hello. The time where we connected with each other and talked to each other on buses.

Wait? You don’t remember that? Why?

Because it didn’t really happen.

We walked by each other and ignored each other. We were not friendly with each other on the bus. We read books, listened to our walkman and did what we could to NOT talk to someone.

What gave people a sense of community and connection? Social Media

The time before Facebook and smart phone, there were many people that felt like they didn’t fit in. There was a feeling that in a very real world, there was a real disconnect of who they were.

What gave people a people a sense of belonging? An online connection with like minded people.

There was also many of you that lived in a city or a town. You couldn’t find the “special someone” in the community that you were involved. You might have switched groups, but it still didn’t work.

What changed that for you? An online dating site.

Some of you have been through some very difficult time of loss and grief. You felt very lonely through that time and couldn’t always personally connect. Or, you had a friend who you were close too that you couldn’t physically be there for.

What helped you through it? A lengthy online conversation with someone you know.

I understand that many of you are impacted by our what rhyming friend is saying. But I’m afraid there is something he is not seeing.

He is not seeing the power of connection. That connection can be, but does not need to be in a physical setting. The connection needs to be meaningful.

I have been in physical places with many people and felt lonely. I have also been by myself and felt connected.

While I understand while many of you are impacted by what he said, I would respond by saying this.

It’s not about what we are seeing.

It’s about what we are looking for.

Agree or Disagree: You put a specific limit on your time on Social Media

Agree or Disagree: You put a specific limit on your time on Social Media

The link above is an article about how parents should be limiting their kids time on Facebook.

It would be common sense for parents to do that. Really, it’s no different then TV or video games. What is interesting is that  I have a number of friends who are on a “Facebook break”. It’s sad because they are missing on the exciting and insightful things I put on Facebook and Twitter. But, that is their choice.

In fairness, other than missing my amazing posts (I really hope you take this as sarcastic, because it is), many do feel the need to limit their time. Some feel that there is an information overload. Some feel conversations get too intense and difficult on Facebook, Twitter or  other blogs. Some quite simply, need a break.

So, do you put a time limit on your Social Media use?If so, how do you do that? And do you find it effective?


Agree or Disagree: Everybody Lies on Facebook.

Agree or Disagree: Everybody Lies on Facebook.

Many of you use Facebook. Many of you post pictures of your friends, your family and your pets. Even some of you shared your pains and your losses in life. Some have recently shared  about your engagements, your pregnancies, and your weddings.

But do you always tell the truth on Facebook?

According to the article linked, you don’t. This article suggests you lie on Facebook. That we all lie on Facebook.

Here’s a portion of the article to read.

Of course, there’s no question as to how much people lie on Facebook, although it was quite shocking to hear from my own daughter – some lie just about their age, some about their jobs and some about their entire lives. It might be as harmless as little 9 year old kids pretending to be 13 (I imagine that ‘13’ is the age of most Facebook users) or a 50 year old woman who says she’s 43, or, it could be people lying about who they really are, what their jobs are or even worse.

I think that it was clear from the beginning that social media (and the Internet in general) gives people free passes to lie as much as they want and build online personas that have nothing to do with who they are in their real lies.

So, tell me. Do you lie on Facebook?