Agree or Disagree: Bullying Can Be Stopped.


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Today is Pink Shirt Day. Many wore a pink shirt to speak out against bullying.

One of the best post to clarify what bullying is was this article from Vancity Buzz.

Now as important as many felt this day was to speak out, there are some that are a little cynical about this day.

Why?

Because some feel Bullying cannot be stopped.

I was, and am actually continuing to have this conversation with some parents who are concerned about the approach schools, and other organizations have on this topic. In particular, grades 8- 10.

With this in mind, I present this article. This is a story form Alpha Mom. She talks about how her kid was being bullied. I’ll let you read. But I’ll fast forward to the end of the story. And, I’ll leave it to you tho think about it.

There will always be bullies in this world. You can’t stop that. But what you can control is the way you act. If everyone did that, called out the bullies instead of living in fear of retribution, bullying would come to an end. Stand up when you see someone being picked on, because the next time it could be you.

You know, Mom, what was weird?

What?

Once I pushed [big kid] down the first time, the other kids that were standing there told him to stop being a bully too. But before that they were just watching and doing nothing.

Sometimes, honey, it takes one person to step up first. Then other people feel brave enough too. They are afraid of being picked on.

Well, I’m not afraid.

Agree or Disagree: Work is B.S.: We need to move to “AntiWork”.


At first glance, this will seem weird. So, stick with this concept. And, if you still think it is weird, I won’t blame you.

I have attached and article  that you can read here. The article suggests that we need a new approach to work, called “anti-work.”  The article defines “anti-work “as this.

A moral alternative to the obsession of “jobs” that has plagued our society for too long. It’s a project to radically reframe work and leisure. It’s also a cognitive antidote to the pernicious culture of “hard work”, which has taken our minds as well as our precious time.

Now, yes, there is a lot of big words, but there are some interesting things to think about. First, let me ask a question.

Why do you work? Seriously. Is it because you need the money? Do you enjoy your work? If you do, that is rare as only 13% of people feel engaged in their job. This according to a poll done in the Washington Post in 2013. I know you say, American. I’ll be the numbers aren’t much higher in Canada.

Wouldn’t you rather be spending the majority of your hours doing something you actually enjoy?  Not stuck at a desk. Or a till. Or, whatever else makes you feel stuck. Maybe avoid that annoying co-worker. Spend more time volunteering in the community you live in. Or overseas. Write a book.

The article is suggesting we move away from this motion of continuing to work, and find a better work-life balance.

So the question is this. Do you Agree or Disagree that Work is B.S. and that it is time to move to a concept like “Anti-Work?” Do you think our society/culture can work with this?

Agree or Disagree: American Culture is the probably the least “Christian Culture” we have ever had.


Twitter stirred up a bit with this Tweet from Eugene Peterson.

It reads

American culture is probably the least Christian culture that we’ve ever had because it is so materialistic and it’s so full of lies.

Agree or Disagree: It’s easy to volunteer in #yyc


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If you haven’t had a chance to listen to the latest Agree or Disagree: The Podcast, you can listen to it here.

The topic we discussed was Kids Up Front. A charity here in Calgary.   Nicky and I had a brief discussion about opportunities to volunteer in the city.

Nicky pointed out that if you are on Social Media, it is easy to be aware of causes in the city. Causes like Kids Up Front. However, if you are not on Social Media (Spoiler: There are people not on Social Media), how are you aware of who needs volunteers or for that matter, where to volunteer?

Also, how do organizations promote their story to attract volunteers to their organization? And keep them?

What are your thoughts?

Agree or Disagree: You need chemistry to fall in love


Agree or Disagree: You need chemistry to fall in love.

The above link is one of probably many links one can find on this topic.

One of the definitions of chemistry is the complex emotional or psychological interaction between two people.

Some feel that chemistry can be a little misleading. This above article presents 6 chemistry myths that can lead to an assumption of if you, or you are not in love.

They are

1) Love happens instantly, you must be absolutely sure from the beginning, you’ll know when you find it, and “chemistry” is all you need

2) Physical lust is always the same as love

3) You can’t fall in love with someone you are not immediately excited about.

4) You can’t fall in love with an old friend.

5)  Relief is the same as love.

6)  If I’m this excited, it must be love, and this person must be good for me.

What do you think? Do you Agree or Disagree with this?

Agree or Disagree: Caretakers of the mentally ill can publicly talk about their experiences.


Every once in a while, I get requests to do an Agree or Disagree. This is a request. And, it is an important topic.

There has been lots of discussion around the stigma of mental illness. It has been important. However, we haven’t had a lot of discussion around caretakers of the mentally ill.

When I was discussing this with my friend, we decided this word would be best. It covers, friends, family and professional supporters of those who are mentally ill.  So, when you are responding, think of it that way.

Here’s the background of the request. For confidentially reasons, the person who requested this will be kept anonymous.

I feel like people talking about mental health is awesome, but there is a complete lack of support for people who are caretakers/partners/children of the mentally ill. We’re not allowed to talk about our own struggles when our lives are affected by mental illness that isn’t our own.

As someone who comes from mentally ill parent(s), and who has been a partner to people with mentally illness or addiction issues, it can be excruciatingly lonely and difficult. I don’t dare open up about this stuff because it treads a line of “slander” or privacy breach. I’ve been condemned for trying to talk about my experiences and seeking support from my community/friends/family.

Where is the help for the caretakers? Are we to suffer quietly because we should respect the privacy of the mentally ill?

Especially when the mentally ill have no/little respect for us, or have been abusive?

What are your thoughts? Is there support for caretakers of the mentally ill? Can they publicly talk about their experiences? Is it a safe environment for them to speak?

Agree or Disagree: It’s time to get rid of photo radar.


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You have seen them. You have probably been caught by them.

The Photo Radar.

In Edmonton as an example, they have collected over $40 million dollars in fines in 2014. That is over $9.9 million dollars more than projected.

The Edmonton Journal reports that the fines turned into a $10.9 million dollar deficit into a forecast of a $14.1 million surplus.

Now the idea is that photo radars is to prevent speeding. But, the fact is it hasn’t. There is still concerns. I’m going to let you read some thoughts from Edmonton Mayor Don Iveson. He is for photo radars. You can read his thoughts here.

However, let’s be fair and look at both sides. This is a perspective from a Calgary man who is fighting against photo radars. You can read that http://www.calgarysun.com/2014/11/09/calgary-man-wages-one-man-war-against-cash-generating-photo-radar-trap-in-citadel

What do you think? Time to get of photo radars?