Agree or Disagree: If You’re Friends First, Then You’re more likely to have a successful relationship.


This in an interesting article  that was posted on a dating group page  I’m involved with.

It suggests that being friends first makes it more likely to have a successful relationship.

Do you Agree or Disagree with that?

Agree or Disagree: Love conquers all.


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The term Love Conquers All comes from this.

Shortly before the start of the first millennium, the Roman poet Virgil wrote “love conquers all things; let us too surrender to Love.”

The phrase and the concept (in Latin and in English) caught on: a character in Chaucer’s The Canterbury Tales, written in the late 1300s, wore a brooch engraved “Amor Vincit Omnia”; Caravaggio used the phrase as the title of his painting of Cupid in the early seventeenth century; the twentieth century poet Edgar Bowers reinterpreted the phrase all over again in the poem with that title.

The ideal Love Conquers All is captured in pretty much every romantic movie that has ever been made.  It’s an ideal that many want to live by.

But do you Agree or Disagree that Love Conquers All?

Agree or Disagree: Calgary is an easy place to date.


Agree or Disagree: Calgary is an easy place to date.

The above link is from clover.co. It has dome some research on easy it is to date in different cities.

I would like to point you what they say about Canada.

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“Central Canada is predominately looking for love where the West and East Coast are more casually oriented. The more remote locations in the North seem to show more of an interest in making new friends above all else.”

Then, there is this map below….

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According to this research, Montreal is looking for love and Edmonton looks to hook up.

So Calgarians, you live here. You might be single, or in a relationship or even yes, married.

How easy is it to date in Calgary? If you are single, what are your options? Where do you go?

If you are in a committed relationship, or married how easy was it for you? Are you glad to be out of the so called “scene”?

I’ll be honest: I’m tired of this repeated, irrelevant behaviour from Christianity. But,there’s hope.


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I have never met Rob and Kristin Bell. I have enjoyed some of his books and his videos. I find Rob’s approach to Christianity refreshing He likes to question, challenge and make people think.  Not only that, he strikes me that he has an optimistic view on live. I imagine Kristin is the same.

I imagine that it was this behaviour that led him and Kristin’s interview to reflect these statements in their interview with Oprah Winfrey.

One of the oldest aches in the bones of humanity is loneliness. Loneliness is not good for the world. Whoever you are, gay or straight, it is totally normal, natural and healthy to want someone to go through life with. It’s central to our humanity. We want someone to go on the journey with.”

Rob Bell

Oprah Winfrey asked, “When is the Church going to get that?”

Rob Bell said: “Lots of people are already there. We think it’s inevitable and we’re moments away from the church accepting it.””I think culture is already there and the Church will continue to be even more irrelevant when it quotes letters from 2,000 years ago as their best defense, when you have in front of you flesh-and-blood people who are your brothers and sisters, and aunts and uncles, and co-workers and neighbours, and they love each other and just want to go through life with someone.”

With that, the internet exploded.

Perhaps it was Kristin’s pragmatism that had her state this.

“I think there are a lot of people who as they see culture moving, their response is to dig in deeper and hold their ground.”

Was she ever right.

In one of many articles from the Christian newspaper world, Christianity was, quite frankly, disappointingly predictably, up in arms by the above comments from Rob and Kristin Bell. That the church is “moments” way from embracing the idea of same sex marriages.

Click here for one example.

Christians over the internet have proclaiming the end is near with this statement. They have proclaimed their place and reminded you who belongs and who does not in their church. And reminded you again that if you are one of “those”, you will not be included in God’s church. There may be some that accepts “them”. But they are not really one of “us”. They aren’t the “Biblical” church.

Biblical. Interesting word.

Here are some of the “Biblical” tweets and Facebook comments I have read today.  Read them, and take a moment to read some Biblical responses to them.

“Why don’t Christians realize that Rob Bell walked away from Christianity a long time ago and thus it doesn’t matter what he says to Oprah?”

Judge not, lest you be judged Jesus said

Former “Pastor” Rob Bell Goes Full Blown Apostasy – Says the Church Should Embrace What God Calls An Abomination.

“Love your neighbours” Jesus said

Rob Bell, village idiot, global false teacher.

“Love your enemies” Jesus said.

And as a reminder, who can forget when certain Christian leaders, subtly or blatantly, depending on your perspective, encouraged  people to stop feeding children in third world because World Vision was willing to hire people in same sex marriage. One even bid them “farewell”. They cancelled sponsorships in droves.

“Feed my sheep” Jesus said

“Truly, I tell you whatever you did not do for the least of these, you did not do for me” Jesus said.

You can attempt to translate and twist them however way you want. But the response from Jesus is straight forward.

Meanwhile, while you continue to scream “abomination” from your moral superior  and privileged porch, it is noticed that you refuse to align with “them’. You refuse to bake cakes for “them”. You ignore homeless, bullied and even suicidal kids that you refuse and reject from your church.

It is noticed that you think that you are better than “them”

Your catcalls, insults,and condescending behaviour is becoming irrelevant. Your us vs them approach is irrelevant

What is relevant is what has been relevant all along. People.  People of all shapes and perspectives working together to strengthen our village. Our community.  Realizing we don’t have all the answers, but questions on how everything works in this world. Instead of us vs them, it’s simply us.

Working together to fix the oldest ache in humanity’s bones. Loneliness.

Agree or Disagree: You need chemistry to fall in love


Agree or Disagree: You need chemistry to fall in love.

The above link is one of probably many links one can find on this topic.

One of the definitions of chemistry is the complex emotional or psychological interaction between two people.

Some feel that chemistry can be a little misleading. This above article presents 6 chemistry myths that can lead to an assumption of if you, or you are not in love.

They are

1) Love happens instantly, you must be absolutely sure from the beginning, you’ll know when you find it, and “chemistry” is all you need

2) Physical lust is always the same as love

3) You can’t fall in love with someone you are not immediately excited about.

4) You can’t fall in love with an old friend.

5)  Relief is the same as love.

6)  If I’m this excited, it must be love, and this person must be good for me.

What do you think? Do you Agree or Disagree with this?

Agree or Disagree: When an affair leads to marriage, it is ok to celebrate it.


I’m not a big reader of Advice Columns . But today in the Calgary Sun, there was a question that caught me, and some other people’s eye as well.

A person named Disapproving (Note, real name  may NOT be Disapproving) wrote to Amy Dickinson and wrote this question.

DEAR AMY: One of my female family members — unmarried and in her 50s — recently disclosed to our large family that she has been having an affair with a married man for 30-plus years. They met while she was in college (he worked at her university), and he has one adult daughter. He is in his 70s.

Her announcement was prompted by the recent death of his wife. Now they are public about their relationship, attending family weddings, sending gifts, etc., as a couple.

Shortly after their relationship became known openly, she announced that they were engaged. Their wedding and her bridal shower are both being planned. My family and I have already been asked to save the dates.

She is an adult and is free to make her own choices; it’s really none of my business. My dilemma is this: I do not want to be a part of the shower or the wedding. I feel that while the intent is for these events to be a celebration, they are a disrespectful spectacle; their infidelity is now public only because his wife has passed away.

I don’t want to take a dramatic stance in any of this. I just want to avoid it altogether. Any suggestions? — Disapproving

Amy’s response was this.

DEAR DISAPPROVING: If you want to avoid drama, then you should also avoid harsh judgment. If it is possible for you to forgive your relative for her decades-long involvement in an extramarital affair, you should do so. You presumably don’t know the circumstances behind this affair and — spun differently — your relative seems like someone who has been profoundly patient. Would you wish to deny her the fullness of happiness now?

It is quite easy to decline an invitation without making a statement designed to ramp up the drama. You simply respond politely that you will not be able to make it to the festivities. You do not need to supply a reason.

However, please realize that life is both short and complicated. People sometimes make baffling choices. But the legitimizing of a relationship between two consenting and legally available adults seems like a good thing, even if you don’t approve of how they got there.

You can read her column here.

Do you Agree or Disagree with her response? What would you do if you were in this situation?

Agree or Disagree: Humans are too obsessed with sex


It’s been a while since we have Agreed or Disagree. Hope you will have a great 2015!

For our first one, I thought we would discuss a favourite subject of many…sex. Some may argue, maybe too much?

Are we humans too obsessed with sex?

This link is from Debate.org. It will argue why some say we are too obsessed with sex. Or, why we aren’t.

What do you think?