Normally We Agree or Disagree, But tonight I have some thoughts to share

Normally it’s time to Agree or Disagree.

But tonight I thought I would share a perspective.

This week, many have been outraged over two incidents.

We were outraged over the Edmonton Fringe Festival handling over someone within the disabled community.
Many were outraged over the behaviour of one woman (strangely not the men) and a “video” at the Calgary Stampede.

Many responded with outrage, and well, let’s be blunt, shame.

Boycott The Fringe!

Fire the Executive Director!

Fire the Social Media Person!

Fire the Woman!

And while I do agree and understand that there are consequences for people’s actions, I feel that in the midst of this that we are missing something.


In all of these situations, there are actually opportunities to learn and be better. As an example, the Edmonton Fringe Festival took some huge steps in making things right with Daniel Hughes and their family. This will be better for everyone involved. And lessons can be learned from other organizations that looks for volunteers on how to communicate.

Would that have happened if we went on a firing spree like was requested or demanded by some?

Now the young lady and the men. And please hold on a moment here while I speak on this.

Imagine for a moment you made a mistake. A big mistake. A mistake that will possibly change the course of your life.

What would you want? Would you want to be isolated and alone while it seems like the whole world is laughing at you and mocking you?

Or, would you want community and support in a time you so desperately need it?

It’s easy to go on a computer and laugh and scorn people for mistakes. The problem is, and this includes me as well, we all have made mistakes. Maybe they weren’t posted on Social Media for all to see and “trend”. But, they were mistakes.

Did you learn from them? Did you have the opportunity to grow and be a better person? I know I have for mine.

There are many that say that the world owes you nothing. And perhaps they are right. But what the world is lacking in a big way is mentorship. People that walk side by side with you and support you in your decisions. The good ones and the bad ones. Maybe the world would be a better place if the world offered that.

So maybe this week is lesson for all of us, including me. Maybe the lesson is instead of asking for our entitled pound of flesh for something we know little about, we take the time to see what opportunities there are for us to learn from.

Because for every mistake we make, there is always a lesson to learn.

Agree or Disagree: This Calgary Cab Driver should be fired.

You heard about this story. A Calgary Cab Driver has been suspended because he kicked two men out of his cab for kissing.

You can read the story here.

Now for some, this is not enough. This is such an inexcusable behaviour that he should be fired.

But his perspective, which we haven’t heard until today, is interesting. This is a quote from a story in the Calgary Sun.

People try to have sex in my cab all the time. I tell anyone who is in my cab acting like that, and if they act like that I tell them to stop, and most times people co-operate and they even make fun over it,” the cabbie told the Sun.

“I’m not against people who practice gay sex or who are homosexual, because I’m not a homophobic person — I just ask them not to. There is copy of the video in my car and if you go back a week or two, you’ll come across a man and woman who I told, please don’t do it.

“Two guys come into my cab and they’re making out and so I tell them please stop until I get you to where you are going. People have started out like that, and they end up undressing themselves, until they are naked and about to have sex, and so I have to stop this kind of thing before it gets to that,” he said.

“I only told them to stop until I get them to where they are going.”

Now, I have to ask this. If you were a cab driver or in a situation like this, what would be your threshold? If you are driving over Stampede, or late at night, you may see some things you don’t want too. Yes, the person is the “customer” and some say the “customer” is always right. But, not to get too graphic here, but if A leads to B which leads to C…….there could be some cleanup needed to be done in the cab.Who pays for that? Likely the driver.

My perspective is if it was simply kicking someone out because they kissed, then yes they should be fired. However, we haven’t heard the cab drivers side of the story.And it sounds like from his perspective, he wasn’t sure what was going to happen. We heard on Facebook, “I got kicked out of a cab because we kissed”. We got outraged. But did we hear the other side of the story?

But what do you think? Do you Agree or Disagree should the Cab Driver be fired? Or, should we hear from him first?

Agree or Disagree: More sex in a relationship makes couples happier

It’s been a while since we have “Agreed or Disagreed”. We have been also spending A LOT of time on politics.

And we need to change it up.

And of course, We should pick an easy topic like sex:)

This linked article suggests that couples having more sex are actually not happier. This is different than comment thought from self-help books.

I’ll let you read this, and then of course ask……

Do you Agree or Disagree with this?

Agree or Disagree: If You’re Friends First, Then You’re more likely to have a successful relationship.

This in an interesting article  that was posted on a dating group page  I’m involved with.

It suggests that being friends first makes it more likely to have a successful relationship.

Do you Agree or Disagree with that?

Agree or Disagree: Love conquers all.


The term Love Conquers All comes from this.

Shortly before the start of the first millennium, the Roman poet Virgil wrote “love conquers all things; let us too surrender to Love.”

The phrase and the concept (in Latin and in English) caught on: a character in Chaucer’s The Canterbury Tales, written in the late 1300s, wore a brooch engraved “Amor Vincit Omnia”; Caravaggio used the phrase as the title of his painting of Cupid in the early seventeenth century; the twentieth century poet Edgar Bowers reinterpreted the phrase all over again in the poem with that title.

The ideal Love Conquers All is captured in pretty much every romantic movie that has ever been made.  It’s an ideal that many want to live by.

But do you Agree or Disagree that Love Conquers All?

Agree or Disagree: Calgary is an easy place to date.

Agree or Disagree: Calgary is an easy place to date.

The above link is from It has dome some research on easy it is to date in different cities.

I would like to point you what they say about Canada.


“Central Canada is predominately looking for love where the West and East Coast are more casually oriented. The more remote locations in the North seem to show more of an interest in making new friends above all else.”

Then, there is this map below….


According to this research, Montreal is looking for love and Edmonton looks to hook up.

So Calgarians, you live here. You might be single, or in a relationship or even yes, married.

How easy is it to date in Calgary? If you are single, what are your options? Where do you go?

If you are in a committed relationship, or married how easy was it for you? Are you glad to be out of the so called “scene”?

I’ll be honest: I’m tired of this repeated, irrelevant behaviour from Christianity. But,there’s hope.


I have never met Rob and Kristin Bell. I have enjoyed some of his books and his videos. I find Rob’s approach to Christianity refreshing He likes to question, challenge and make people think.  Not only that, he strikes me that he has an optimistic view on live. I imagine Kristin is the same.

I imagine that it was this behaviour that led him and Kristin’s interview to reflect these statements in their interview with Oprah Winfrey.

One of the oldest aches in the bones of humanity is loneliness. Loneliness is not good for the world. Whoever you are, gay or straight, it is totally normal, natural and healthy to want someone to go through life with. It’s central to our humanity. We want someone to go on the journey with.”

Rob Bell

Oprah Winfrey asked, “When is the Church going to get that?”

Rob Bell said: “Lots of people are already there. We think it’s inevitable and we’re moments away from the church accepting it.””I think culture is already there and the Church will continue to be even more irrelevant when it quotes letters from 2,000 years ago as their best defense, when you have in front of you flesh-and-blood people who are your brothers and sisters, and aunts and uncles, and co-workers and neighbours, and they love each other and just want to go through life with someone.”

With that, the internet exploded.

Perhaps it was Kristin’s pragmatism that had her state this.

“I think there are a lot of people who as they see culture moving, their response is to dig in deeper and hold their ground.”

Was she ever right.

In one of many articles from the Christian newspaper world, Christianity was, quite frankly, disappointingly predictably, up in arms by the above comments from Rob and Kristin Bell. That the church is “moments” way from embracing the idea of same sex marriages.

Click here for one example.

Christians over the internet have proclaiming the end is near with this statement. They have proclaimed their place and reminded you who belongs and who does not in their church. And reminded you again that if you are one of “those”, you will not be included in God’s church. There may be some that accepts “them”. But they are not really one of “us”. They aren’t the “Biblical” church.

Biblical. Interesting word.

Here are some of the “Biblical” tweets and Facebook comments I have read today.  Read them, and take a moment to read some Biblical responses to them.

“Why don’t Christians realize that Rob Bell walked away from Christianity a long time ago and thus it doesn’t matter what he says to Oprah?”

Judge not, lest you be judged Jesus said

Former “Pastor” Rob Bell Goes Full Blown Apostasy – Says the Church Should Embrace What God Calls An Abomination.

“Love your neighbours” Jesus said

Rob Bell, village idiot, global false teacher.

“Love your enemies” Jesus said.

And as a reminder, who can forget when certain Christian leaders, subtly or blatantly, depending on your perspective, encouraged  people to stop feeding children in third world because World Vision was willing to hire people in same sex marriage. One even bid them “farewell”. They cancelled sponsorships in droves.

“Feed my sheep” Jesus said

“Truly, I tell you whatever you did not do for the least of these, you did not do for me” Jesus said.

You can attempt to translate and twist them however way you want. But the response from Jesus is straight forward.

Meanwhile, while you continue to scream “abomination” from your moral superior  and privileged porch, it is noticed that you refuse to align with “them’. You refuse to bake cakes for “them”. You ignore homeless, bullied and even suicidal kids that you refuse and reject from your church.

It is noticed that you think that you are better than “them”

Your catcalls, insults,and condescending behaviour is becoming irrelevant. Your us vs them approach is irrelevant

What is relevant is what has been relevant all along. People.  People of all shapes and perspectives working together to strengthen our village. Our community.  Realizing we don’t have all the answers, but questions on how everything works in this world. Instead of us vs them, it’s simply us.

Working together to fix the oldest ache in humanity’s bones. Loneliness.