Agree or Disagree: Bullying Can Be Stopped.


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Today is Pink Shirt Day. Many wore a pink shirt to speak out against bullying.

One of the best post to clarify what bullying is was this article from Vancity Buzz.

Now as important as many felt this day was to speak out, there are some that are a little cynical about this day.

Why?

Because some feel Bullying cannot be stopped.

I was, and am actually continuing to have this conversation with some parents who are concerned about the approach schools, and other organizations have on this topic. In particular, grades 8- 10.

With this in mind, I present this article. This is a story form Alpha Mom. She talks about how her kid was being bullied. I’ll let you read. But I’ll fast forward to the end of the story. And, I’ll leave it to you tho think about it.

There will always be bullies in this world. You can’t stop that. But what you can control is the way you act. If everyone did that, called out the bullies instead of living in fear of retribution, bullying would come to an end. Stand up when you see someone being picked on, because the next time it could be you.

You know, Mom, what was weird?

What?

Once I pushed [big kid] down the first time, the other kids that were standing there told him to stop being a bully too. But before that they were just watching and doing nothing.

Sometimes, honey, it takes one person to step up first. Then other people feel brave enough too. They are afraid of being picked on.

Well, I’m not afraid.

Agree or Disagree: Work is B.S.: We need to move to “AntiWork”.


At first glance, this will seem weird. So, stick with this concept. And, if you still think it is weird, I won’t blame you.

I have attached and article  that you can read here. The article suggests that we need a new approach to work, called “anti-work.”  The article defines “anti-work “as this.

A moral alternative to the obsession of “jobs” that has plagued our society for too long. It’s a project to radically reframe work and leisure. It’s also a cognitive antidote to the pernicious culture of “hard work”, which has taken our minds as well as our precious time.

Now, yes, there is a lot of big words, but there are some interesting things to think about. First, let me ask a question.

Why do you work? Seriously. Is it because you need the money? Do you enjoy your work? If you do, that is rare as only 13% of people feel engaged in their job. This according to a poll done in the Washington Post in 2013. I know you say, American. I’ll be the numbers aren’t much higher in Canada.

Wouldn’t you rather be spending the majority of your hours doing something you actually enjoy?  Not stuck at a desk. Or a till. Or, whatever else makes you feel stuck. Maybe avoid that annoying co-worker. Spend more time volunteering in the community you live in. Or overseas. Write a book.

The article is suggesting we move away from this motion of continuing to work, and find a better work-life balance.

So the question is this. Do you Agree or Disagree that Work is B.S. and that it is time to move to a concept like “Anti-Work?” Do you think our society/culture can work with this?

Agree or Disagree: American Culture is the probably the least “Christian Culture” we have ever had.


Twitter stirred up a bit with this Tweet from Eugene Peterson.

It reads

American culture is probably the least Christian culture that we’ve ever had because it is so materialistic and it’s so full of lies.

Agree or Disagree: It’s easy to volunteer in #yyc


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If you haven’t had a chance to listen to the latest Agree or Disagree: The Podcast, you can listen to it here.

The topic we discussed was Kids Up Front. A charity here in Calgary.   Nicky and I had a brief discussion about opportunities to volunteer in the city.

Nicky pointed out that if you are on Social Media, it is easy to be aware of causes in the city. Causes like Kids Up Front. However, if you are not on Social Media (Spoiler: There are people not on Social Media), how are you aware of who needs volunteers or for that matter, where to volunteer?

Also, how do organizations promote their story to attract volunteers to their organization? And keep them?

What are your thoughts?

I’ll be honest: I’m tired of this repeated, irrelevant behaviour from Christianity. But,there’s hope.


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I have never met Rob and Kristin Bell. I have enjoyed some of his books and his videos. I find Rob’s approach to Christianity refreshing He likes to question, challenge and make people think.  Not only that, he strikes me that he has an optimistic view on live. I imagine Kristin is the same.

I imagine that it was this behaviour that led him and Kristin’s interview to reflect these statements in their interview with Oprah Winfrey.

One of the oldest aches in the bones of humanity is loneliness. Loneliness is not good for the world. Whoever you are, gay or straight, it is totally normal, natural and healthy to want someone to go through life with. It’s central to our humanity. We want someone to go on the journey with.”

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Oprah Winfrey asked, “When is the Church going to get that?”

Rob Bell said: “Lots of people are already there. We think it’s inevitable and we’re moments away from the church accepting it.””I think culture is already there and the Church will continue to be even more irrelevant when it quotes letters from 2,000 years ago as their best defense, when you have in front of you flesh-and-blood people who are your brothers and sisters, and aunts and uncles, and co-workers and neighbours, and they love each other and just want to go through life with someone.”

With that, the internet exploded.

Perhaps it was Kristin’s pragmatism that had her state this.

“I think there are a lot of people who as they see culture moving, their response is to dig in deeper and hold their ground.”

Was she ever right.

In one of many articles from the Christian newspaper world, Christianity was, quite frankly, disappointingly predictably, up in arms by the above comments from Rob and Kristin Bell. That the church is “moments” way from embracing the idea of same sex marriages.

Click here for one example.

Christians over the internet have proclaiming the end is near with this statement. They have proclaimed their place and reminded you who belongs and who does not in their church. And reminded you again that if you are one of “those”, you will not be included in God’s church. There may be some that accepts “them”. But they are not really one of “us”. They aren’t the “Biblical” church.

Biblical. Interesting word.

Here are some of the “Biblical” tweets and Facebook comments I have read today.  Read them, and take a moment to read some Biblical responses to them.

“Why don’t Christians realize that Rob Bell walked away from Christianity a long time ago and thus it doesn’t matter what he says to Oprah?”

Judge not, lest you be judged Jesus said

Former “Pastor” Rob Bell Goes Full Blown Apostasy – Says the Church Should Embrace What God Calls An Abomination.

“Love your neighbours” Jesus said

Rob Bell, village idiot, global false teacher.

“Love your enemies” Jesus said.

And as a reminder, who can forget when certain Christian leaders, subtly or blatantly, depending on your perspective, encouraged  people to stop feeding children in third world because World Vision was willing to hire people in same sex marriage. One even bid them “farewell”. They cancelled sponsorships in droves.

“Feed my sheep” Jesus said

“Truly, I tell you whatever you did not do for the least of these, you did not do for me” Jesus said.

You can attempt to translate and twist them however way you want. But the response from Jesus is straight forward.

Meanwhile, while you continue to scream “abomination” from your moral superior  and privileged porch, it is noticed that you refuse to align with “them’. You refuse to bake cakes for “them”. You ignore homeless, bullied and even suicidal kids that you refuse and reject from your church.

It is noticed that you think that you are better than “them”

Your catcalls, insults,and condescending behaviour is becoming irrelevant. Your us vs them approach is irrelevant

What is relevant is what has been relevant all along. People.  People of all shapes and perspectives working together to strengthen our village. Our community.  Realizing we don’t have all the answers, but questions on how everything works in this world. Instead of us vs them, it’s simply us.

Working together to fix the oldest ache in humanity’s bones. Loneliness.

Agree or Disagree: This PC petition opposing someone wearing a niqab while taking the oath.


“Not the way we do things here”

The above petition is from the Federal PC Government.

They are asking you to sign a petition requesting that women not wear a full face covering during the Canadian oath.

To quote the petition here it is;

In Canada, women are full and equal members of society — including when they take the oath of Canadian citizenship.

That is why we are strongly opposed to anyone wearing a niqab – a full face covering – while taking the oath.

As PM Harper said last week, that is not the way we do things here: 

“It is offensive that someone would hide their identity at the very moment where they are committing to join the Canadian family.”

In Canada, women are full and equal members of society. Including when they take the oath of Canadian citizenship.

In order to give some perspective as to why those choose to wear the nijab, I’ll post this link from the BBC. It is from woman who explain why this is very important to them.

So, do you Agree or Disagree with the Federal Government addressing this topic at all?

Would you sign this petition?

Agree or Disagree: You need chemistry to fall in love


Agree or Disagree: You need chemistry to fall in love.

The above link is one of probably many links one can find on this topic.

One of the definitions of chemistry is the complex emotional or psychological interaction between two people.

Some feel that chemistry can be a little misleading. This above article presents 6 chemistry myths that can lead to an assumption of if you, or you are not in love.

They are

1) Love happens instantly, you must be absolutely sure from the beginning, you’ll know when you find it, and “chemistry” is all you need

2) Physical lust is always the same as love

3) You can’t fall in love with someone you are not immediately excited about.

4) You can’t fall in love with an old friend.

5)  Relief is the same as love.

6)  If I’m this excited, it must be love, and this person must be good for me.

What do you think? Do you Agree or Disagree with this?