A while ago, we did discuss a book called Love and Respect by Emerson Eggerichs. The book makes the theory that women seek to be loved, and men seek to be respected. I generally disagreed with the premise that the book gave.
This week something interesting happened. I was texting with a friend how excited I was that this month we broke 1,000 views on my blog. At this typing we passed 1,200 views. Just on a side note, thank you for coming and checking out the blog. Im truly honoured.
Anyway, in the midst of our text conversation, I almost texted out these words.
I just want to be respected.
I thought this was in part because for many years, I felt like I wasn’t respected. I’ve worked really hard to change that. I have learned I can’t change perceptions or please people, but focus on the things that you need to change. In time the people that choose to notice, will.
But another thing happened. I noticed that I said I just want to be respected, I didn’t say I want to be loved. (Although that’s true too). I wondered if this was a man thing and would prefer respect over love?
What do you think?