These are brutal words. Words you shouldn’t hear from anyone, much less say to anyone. Much less to yourself.
I’ve had some terrible conversations with my mirror. I have said some very hurtful things to me. And it has impacted me deeply in my life
Perhaps it had something to do with the various people that did say that to me in my past. The very insults and rejections I heard hit the very core of who I was. And it was the only way it could get out.
It has taken some time to admit this, but I have fought for years over an issue of self esteem. It’s even tougher in some cases because I’m a man and we shouldn’t admit this. We should be confident, after all, that is what is attractive. And I think that is true to a certain extent.
Looking back, I found that these things happened whenever I made a mistake or take a chance in life. For example, if I forgot something at home, or made simple and obvious mistakes, I got very angry with myself.
To simplify my struggles in three or four paragraphs is tough to do. However, I can speak about it now for two reasons. For one, I recognize when and where my struggles came from. Because of that, I have made some different choices on how I handle things. I noticed that I put my esteem in the hands of other people. So people’s feelings about me affected my view of me. Now I choose to let my God and reflection help me to take better steps in that.
The second reason is that I not I now know I’m not the only one. Turns out, are lots. Poor Self Esteem is not only for the “lower class”. It can happen to anybody. Jessica Simpson talked about how she hated her body. It’s pretty obvious that she has a beautiful one, but she struggled with it. The point is it can happen to anybody. One of the great lies when there is struggles is that you feel alone. One of the great discoveries is that you are not.
I’m assuming that most will answer to this “Agree”. If that is true, how have you overcome?
You never know. Maybe your answer can help someone in the same position.