Normally, at this time, I like to start your suppertime or evening with a little Agree or Disagree. I like to hear both sides of the perspective given and generally we have a good talk. I know I hear many who never comment, but tend to observe. Today is different.
I read something today that made me very angry. I usually try to be calm when I write. But forgive my indulgence.
We in Canada might have been outraged by a Muslim Street Preacher wanting Canadian women to cover up. Here is a quote from the article.
“the reason … these sex attacks are continuously happening is because (of) Canadian laws, which give too much freedom to women” when it comes to how they dress.” “You should take your example from the way Muslim women dress,” he wrote. “Why does (sic) Muslim women who wear long dress and covers her head aren’t targeted for sex attacks.”
It was interesting to read comments from some claiming that he should go back to his Muslim ways and that he should go back into Canada. As angered and rightfully outraged we should be at these comments, I might propose that some from a Christian perspective might agree.
This is where I introduce you to a group called the Gospel Coalition. The Gospel Coalition is a group of Christian leaders which include some well known and respected people like Tim Keller and Justin Taylor. It even included Mark Driscoll for a while. They have presented themselves as the moral authority of God’s Word. (My words).
One of the writers of their blogs is named Jared C. Wilson. He happened to review the book 50 Shades of Grey ( I intend to as well). In the blog entitled The Polluted Water of 50 Shades of Grey, it would not be surprising to some that from a Christian perspective would not recommend the book. But please read this excerpt from his blog.
This passage from Douglas Wilson’s book Fidelity: What it Means to be a One-Woman Man was written 13 years ago, but I found it especially relevant in the wake of the success of 50 Shades of Grey and other modern celebrations of perverted sexual authority/submission. It is found in the chapter in the book on Rape, and Wilson argues that this sort of sexual pathology is a perverted version of good, God-honoring, and body-protecting authority and submission between husbands and wives.
A final aspect of rape that should be briefly mentioned is perhaps closer to home. Because we have forgotten the biblical concepts of true authority and submission, or more accurately, have rebelled against them, we have created a climate in which caricatures of authority and submission intrude upon our lives with violence.
When we quarrel with the way the world is, we find that the world has ways of getting back at us. In other words, however we try, the sexual act cannot be made into an egalitarian pleasuring party. A man penetrates, conquers, colonizes, plants. A woman receives, surrenders, accepts. This is of course offensive to all egalitarians, and so our culture has rebelled against the concept of authority and submission in marriage. This means that we have sought to suppress the concepts of authority and submission as they relate to the marriage bed.
But we cannot make gravity disappear just because we dislike it, and in the same way we find that our banished authority and submission comes back to us in pathological forms. This is what lies behind sexual “bondage and submission games,” along with very common rape fantasies. Men dream of being rapists, and women find themselves wistfully reading novels in which someone ravishes the “soon to be made willing” heroine. Those who deny they have any need for water at all will soon find themselves lusting after polluted water, but water nonetheless.
True authority and true submission are therefore an erotic necessity. When authority is honored according to the word of God it serves and protects — and gives enormous pleasure. When it is denied, the result is not “no authority,” but an authority which devours.
I don’t know your story, but the issue of rape, submission, and for that matter sex, have some very deep connections and meanings for people. There have been many men and women that have suffered through the embarrassment, humiliation and degradedness of rape. To subtly indicate or outright blame the victim is unacceptable.
I’m single and have never been married. I have some views and thoughts on how a marriage might work. From what discussions I have had with those who are is throw them out the window. As much as some believe that if you connect-the-dots and think if you follow a certain way it will work. The fact is it won’t.
I’m also a person who takes my faith very seriously. You might agree with some of the things I say or I post, or you might not. As I take my faith seriously, this means I love the Bible. I personally think it is a beautiful book or set of books. So when I see men or “Christian” leaders use this book as an authority tool to hold another group into submission, I get very angry. If you think the Bible gives you the authority to make someone submit to you and that a society is failing because they aren’t, you are 100% wrong. If you teach it, no matter what faith or perspective you come from, it is 100% unacceptable.
The concept of Religion and Sex has never truly worked in our society and this week it took 1,000 years… steps back. But I end this blog hoping and praying more people start to speak out about these issues. People like for example Amy Mitchell who goes by @amyunchained on Twitter and pleases follow her. She discusses this is as unedited of a blog as you will see here.
Thank you for reading.